Question: When faced with disrespectful or uncaring behavior from another, how does one show unconditional loving and express discernment?

Answer: In our true nature, in our heart and soul, we have compassion. When we wake up, we have a realization or a revelation that we have this compassion automatically. We don’t even have to work on it. We don’t even have to be taught it. We see past our differences so that we understand, “Okay, you’re someone who at the core I love, even if I don’t like you.”

One of the keys to peace is to seek understanding. There is an understanding that the divine nature, the high nature of us all, understands our differences and teaches us compassion, teaches us at the very minimum a level of acceptance and tolerance. When we truly understand we can help others understand, like “Do you need to speak or act that way?”

All these things can be understood. It doesn’t mean we will agree. It just can be, “Okay, now I understand.” Maybe you offer a different point of view that helps somebody understand something that they never understood before. Choose to communicate and have the willingness to seek understanding instead of, “Those people don’t understand. You can’t talk to those people,” and call them names that are derogatory or disrespectful. Those are roots of disturbance, violence and evil.

Instead of seeing something dark and negative, consider that past all the disturbance and pain in that person there’s a positive being there. Choose to look for and relate to that positive being. Maybe we need to stop them. Without hurting anyone we might need to incarcerate them or put a strait jacket on them in order for them to calm down and quiet themselves. Eventually we can get to a greater resolution that comes through understanding instead of further discord and againstness.

In choosing to be a peacemaker, we are called upon to reach out to understand. Make a request or prayer within to understand. “Lord, may I understand today what prior to today I have been unable to understand or forgotten about my divine nature? Help me understand. Help me see what this is about, that I may in some way understand and perhaps invite someone to another way of relating so we choose to appreciate and find peace with one another.”

John-Roger has said, “I pray, Father, that I hold peace and love in my heart. And I ask for strength that through my loving, through my caring, and through my sharing, I may extend the Light of love and peace to all I meet.”

We can live next to each other without resorting to disturbance or negativity. Remember, you’re not here to solve others’ problems or conflicts. You’re here to take care of yourself. And in that place, there’s a blessing of God. There’s a blessing that goes forth from you — not because of you, but from you — that is caring towards and for others.

So bring forth that place from within you that smiles upon the world and smiles with compassion upon someone in need. If you see someone in pain or in a difficult situation, bring forth your willingness to assist and support them. Often just being with them with your loving and caring is the greatest blessing.

Baruch Bashan

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