{"id":10601,"date":"2014-01-31T12:41:08","date_gmt":"2014-01-31T20:41:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.msia.org\/newdayherald\/?p=10601"},"modified":"2016-06-07T14:57:27","modified_gmt":"2016-06-07T21:57:27","slug":"six-tips-to-help-you-take-charge-of-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.msia.org\/newdayherald\/archives\/10601-six-tips-to-help-you-take-charge-of-yourself","title":{"rendered":"Six Tips to Help You Take Charge of Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"

This article by John-Roger<\/a> was originally published in the publication \u201cYour Personal Best\u201d Vol. 2 October, 1990<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cDon\u2019t Settle For Somebody Else\u2019s Best!\u201d<\/p>\n

When I’m asked, “What’s your personal best?\u201d\u00a0 I don’t think of a particular event or accomplishment in my life.\u00a0 I don’t reminisce about a time I won a race or got elected to some office or anything like that.\u00a0 So, in a way, my answer may be a bit unusual.<\/p>\n

I live by the idea that EACH OF US IS DOING OUR PERSONAL BEST AT ANY GIVEN MOMENT.\u00a0 You may find that hard to believe, but I really believe that we are all doing the best we can with what we’ve got.\u00a0 Now, sometimes the “very best\u201d I’m doing isn’t too hot, but it’s still the best I can do AT THAT MOMENT.<\/p>\n

And when that moment’s done, it’s done.\u00a0 My attitude is “I’m finished with what I DID.\u00a0 Now, how do I keep MOVING ON with my life?”<\/p>\n

One of the big things that blocks us from moving on in our lives is worrying about WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK.\u00a0 There’s always going to be someone out there who won’t like what I said or did.\u00a0 Do I stop living based upon the fear that they may be the next person I meet?\u00a0 Or do I keep on going to make the best out of my life while I have it?\u00a0 It’s a very precious life.\u00a0 I won’t throw it away–especially over someone’s opinion.<\/p>\n

Each of us must decide what truth we will live by.\u00a0 It’s important that my personal best be MY personal best, and that yours be YOUR personal best.\u00a0 In other words, you do your personal best in terms of YOURSELF–so that YOU RUN YOUR OWN LIFE<\/p>\n

In that spirit, here are some tips that I use to do MY personal best:<\/p>\n

1.\u00a0 I APPROACH WHAT I HAVE TO DO WITH THE \u201cBEST\u201d ATTITUDE.<\/strong> \u00a0If I want the most out of something I am doing, I approach it with this attitude: “I want the best out of me in this situation.\u201d\u00a0 That applies to ANYTHING I do.\u00a0 When I sit down to meditate, I say, “I want the best out of my body, my mind, my emotions, and my spirit right now.\u00a0 I want the best.\u201d\u00a0 I ask myself in very specific terms to do the very best that I can do.<\/p>\n

2.\u00a0 I DON\u2019T JUDGE MYSELF.<\/strong>\u00a0 If something I do doesn’t turn out as good as I’d like, I DON\u2019T criticize myself for not doing better.\u00a0 I’ve seen some folks sit themselves down and be hard on themselves.\u00a0 They tell themselves, “Boy, did you do a lousy job.\u00a0 What a screw up.\u201d\u00a0 Not me.\u00a0 Why?\u00a0 Because doing that has NEVER DONE ANYTHING TO CHANGE what I’ve already done.<\/p>\n

3.\u00a0 I ASK MYSELF HOW I CAN IMPROVE.<\/strong>\u00a0 Like I said, I don’t criticize myself.\u00a0 But I do CRITIQUE what I’ve done in order to decide HOW I CAN IMPROVE.\u00a0 There’s a big difference in the two.\u00a0 Instead of being hard on myself, I ask myself this question: “If this situation shows up again, how will I do better next time?\u201d\u00a0 That keeps me moving forward in my life.<\/p>\n

4.\u00a0 IF I CAN, I GO BACK AND FIX IT.<\/strong>\u00a0 If my personal best wasn’t too hot, and later I find an opportunity to fix it, I take the time.\u00a0 Maybe it’s an apology to someone.\u00a0 Or maybe it’s to redo something to make it right.\u00a0 When I give it my best shot AT THAT NEW TIME, it’s a brand-new personal best for me.<\/p>\n

5.\u00a0 I STRIVE TO DO THINGS BETTER THAN IS REQUIRED.<\/strong>\u00a0 I always ask myself to do more than would be thought of as “acceptable.\u201d\u00a0 If I’m considering taking on a job or a responsibility, I say to myself, “Don’t do it unless you are going to do it the best way you can.\u201d\u00a0 That way, everyone involved can rest easy, because I’m doing my personal best to make a project work.<\/p>\n

6.\u00a0 I ASK FOR HELP WHEN I NEED IT.<\/strong>\u00a0 I don’t think that there’s anything great about being a martyr to get a job done.\u00a0 What’s wrong with being smart enough to ask for help when you need it?\u00a0 If I’m doing my personal best and things still get beyond me, I ask for help.\u00a0 To me, that’s being good to myself.<\/p>\n

– John-Roger<\/a>, founder of MSIA<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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