{"id":110618,"date":"2021-08-04T09:49:34","date_gmt":"2021-08-04T16:49:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.msia.org\/newdayherald\/?p=110618"},"modified":"2021-08-04T09:49:34","modified_gmt":"2021-08-04T16:49:34","slug":"points-of-view","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.msia.org\/newdayherald\/archives\/110618-points-of-view","title":{"rendered":"Points of View"},"content":{"rendered":" \u00a0 \n

John-Roger, circa 1980.<\/em><\/p>\n \"Sometimes in our desire to get what we want, we get selfish and enter into our ego.\u00a0 In that process we sometimes lose track of the loving heart and what we really want.\"<\/em> - John-Roger\n

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This article by John-Roger was first published in the Insight Newsletter in June of 1980.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I’ve been reflecting lately about people and their points of view.\u00a0 How much time do you figure you spend thinking about your point of view about something?\u00a0 All the time assuming you are right and the other person is wrong?\u00a0 You know the definition of assume, don\u2019t you?\u00a0 Assume makes an ass out of you and me.<\/p>\n

Yet how many times in your life do you push for what you want, all the while trying to manipulate others to do what you want them to do, to see things “your” way, the “right” way?<\/p>\n

Belief systems are funny.\u00a0 We often set up belief systems to protect ourselves, to protect our “rightness” so we can feel good about ourselves, or justify our position.\u00a0 In the case of trying to control or manipulate someone to get what we want, we set up a belief system that says in essence, “What I want is right and because you have a different point of view, you are wrong.\u00a0 So I have to show you that my way is right.”\u00a0 So we push and shove and control and manipulate others to “see our point of view,” to “see our rightness.”\u00a0 And what do we meet?\u00a0 Resistance.\u00a0 Stubbornness.\u00a0 Resentment.\u00a0 Anger.<\/p>\n

Then what do we do?\u00a0 We resist.\u00a0 We get stubborn.\u00a0 We get angry and resent the other person for not “seeing that we are right.”\u00a0 We feel hurt and pain and separation and we don’t understand why this other person is creating all of this when we are “just trying to help them learn, just trying to help them see things the ‘right’ way.”<\/p>\n

Did you ever stop to think that when you try to manipulate someone else and change their point of view to agree with you, you are making them wrong?\u00a0 You are prejudging them and saying “What you think and who you are is wrong and bad.\u00a0 I\u2019m right.\u00a0 You should think like I do.”<\/p>\n

It can really be interesting to watch when people move into areas of prejudging.\u00a0 There is really no necessity to argue with them or to convince them of another point of view, nor is there any reason to defend your point of view.\u00a0 Just hold steady to what you know is right for you and love and respect the other person enough to let them express their point of view.<\/p>\n

Sometimes in our desire to get what we want, we get selfish and enter into our ego.\u00a0 In that process we sometimes lose track of the loving heart and what we really want.<\/p>\n

What do you really want?\u00a0 What do we all really want?\u00a0 To love and be loved.\u00a0 To share in that loving.\u00a0 To lift ourselves and lift others.\u00a0 How can we get that?\u00a0 Certainly not by making others wrong.\u00a0 Certainly not by placing out control and manipulation.<\/p>\n

But you say, “How can I get what I want if I don’t assert myself?”\u00a0 There’s a difference between standing up inside of yourself, loving and supporting yourself and stepping on someone else in the process.<\/p>\n

Have you ever heard me say, “Take care of yourself so you can help take care of others?”\u00a0 Support yourself and support others.\u00a0 Live from your heart.\u00a0 Love from your heart.\u00a0 Be that loving.\u00a0 Love yourself and share that loving with others.\u00a0 You can be honest with yourself and true to yourself without making anyone else wrong.\u00a0 You don’t have to justify or prove anything.\u00a0 You can just accept what is true for you in the moment and allow everyone else that same right.\u00a0 If you communicate with others from your loving heart, then you can all be “right,” and in this rightness, all points of view are valid.\u00a0 All points of view can be used to lift.\u00a0 Then you get what you really wanted all along \u2014 the loving, the support and the caring.<\/p>\n

Baruch Bashan<\/p>\n

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