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Let\u2019s take a hard look at our love pattern, and the area of responsibility in interpersonal relationships. Someone once said to me, \u201cYou talk about this divine love, this divine Light. Well, what are you doing with it? Why don\u2019t you take it and direct it towards somebody and share it with them?\u201d They weren\u2019t talking about the personal love, because often we let that get in the way. They were talking about the divine love.<\/p>\n
What if we take the Light, the Holy Spirit, and look at a person objectively and say, \u201cWhat are this person\u2019s needs and wants? What do they really need?\u201d Sometimes a mother looks at her son who is driving the car at sixteen or seventeen, and when he comes in, she asks, \u201cWhere you been?\u201d He says, \u201cOut.\u201d Or she says, \u201cWhere are you going tonight?\u201d He says, \u201cOut.\u201d \u201cWho are you going with?\u201d \u201cMy friends.\u201d \u201cWhere?\u201d \u201cJust around.\u201d This is great communication, isn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n
Maybe if the process of interrogation isn\u2019t so intensified, you can share something with people in your family at a time when they\u2019re not going somewhere. I\u2019m not talking about, \u201cHow are you doing? How\u2019s the school coming? How\u2019s your homework coming? How\u2019s the job coming?\u201d All of that is interrogation. It\u2019s continual questioning, and you start getting very trite, concise answers that put you off. As they say, \u201cIt gets my old lady\u2014or my old man\u2014off my back.\u201d <\/p>\n
We might look at the relationship a little differently, and start to find out what they are interested in and what they are doing. What does a fourteen-year-old girl start looking forward to at fourteen? What does a seven-year-old boy start looking at, at that age? We don\u2019t look at what we think they should be doing\u2014that\u2019s the suffocating love. The kind of love that I\u2019m talking about is a love where we look, and watch, and communicate.<\/p>\n
We sometimes forget that the five-year-old is now twelve. We had better start treating them like twelve. And when the twelve-year-old is now fourteen or fifteen years old, we\u2019d better start treating them like they\u2019re fourteen or fifteen years old, or they\u2019re going to go someplace else. This isn\u2019t casting rocks or stones. This is just a statement that we must look.<\/p>\n
Probably right around the age of ten and younger, children need a mother and father. But after that, they could use an older friend. If you\u2019ve been training them and preparing them for the lessons of life, an older friend can instill in them the confidence that they need in order to take those lessons and use them. But too often, father and mother act as the fearful God who will step in a little too hard. You might say, \u201cWell, what do we do about it? I\u2019ve done this for the last twenty years with all my children. What do I do now?\u201d One thing you can do is close the doors on the past, because the past is gone, and you can\u2019t do a thing about it. You can start living right now. <\/p>\n
You\u2019ve heard the phrase in the movies, \u201cI\u2019m going to make it up to you starting right now.\u201d You don\u2019t have to make it up to them because that\u2019s an impossibility. But live right now to your highest capability and let that capability be an inspiration. I have a lot of people in seminars say, \u201cOh John-Roger, I go out and just tell everybody about the Light and how wonderful and great you are.\u201d And I say, \u201cDon\u2019t do that.\u201d They say, \u201cWell, what am I supposed to do?\u201d I say, \u201cDon\u2019t tell them anything. Go out and live the Light. Let your actions and your love speak the words for you because it will say more than your adjectives can ever say.\u201d<\/p>\n
When we don\u2019t enter into relationships with this openness and responsibility, we reap the harvest. We see it in our country when different groups\u2014black, white, Asian, Mexican, Native American\u2014stand up and start saying, \u201cWhat about me? What do I really need, what do I really want?\u201d Every person is \u201cme,\u201d and I am every person. If I neglect myself, I neglect everyone. And if I come into balance with myself, I come into balance with everyone with whom I come into any type of contact. And after that they should say, \u201cThanks for just doing one little thing.\u201d It might be, \u201cThank you for irritating me enough that I looked, and from that look I had the wit to step in and balance the action.\u201d<\/p>\n
Some people can\u2019t stand to hear this. They can\u2019t take it. And there\u2019s the old expression, \u201cThe things that we don\u2019t understand, we fear. And the things we fear we hate.\u201d Whenever we find hate has an entrance into us, there\u2019s something in us that needs an awakening. We\u2019ve got to wake up and see who\u2019s at the door. We have to see what our true self is letting through, and how we\u2019re perceiving the environment.<\/p>\n
This love that we\u2019re expressing in the human form is a very transient type of love. The sexual level will last a year. If you say, \u201cI love to look at you,\u201d that\u2019s a physical love, and that can probably last two or three years, or until one person goes out of balance physically. A lot of the emotional love is, \u201cWe\u2019re married for the children\u2019s sake. Let\u2019s make the most out of it until they\u2019re old enough to go.\u201d Then there is the love where we love to talk to people, and this type of love relationship can last a lifetime. Coupled with the physical, emotional and sexual, we have a beautiful marriage. But when the Holy Spirit comes in, and we rise to these occasions of sharing and knowing and gathering, then you can sit in the room with your loved one and they might not say a word. One may be busy reading a paper and the other one\u2019s knitting, and yet there\u2019s this contentment within you. Or it could be while one\u2019s in the restroom and the other is busy cooking, there\u2019s that love in there no matter what they\u2019re doing. And they get a little hassled, but then this love comes creeping through and it balances the action. That\u2019s the Spirit. That\u2019s the Light of our consciousness opening and unfolding towards each other.<\/p>\n
As we unfold towards each other, we unfold towards the Supreme Light. You must love your neighbors as yourself. When you\u2019ve done this, you\u2019ve loved the God source within them. And if you can love your own God source and your neighbor\u2019s God source, then you are indeed walking in the high Light of the Holy Spirit. If you can\u2019t, and you\u2019ve got your emotions in there, then you\u2019re working with what we call the negative forces of light. Those are the force fields that try to keep us held down on the planet. So it\u2019s very easy to talk about our neighbors, to judge, to condemn, to criticize, to find fault, and to enter into what is referred to as the seven deadly sins: lust, greed, avarice, jealousy, and all the rest. They don\u2019t have a place in your life when you\u2019re walking towards another person as another creator who you respect and love. And when we come into those close, intimate, conjugal relationships with them, we are sharing the highest part that we can share. It\u2019s the exchanging of spiritual energy and the opening of the physic centers into our God source within, into the true self.<\/p>\n
People will see somebody and they\u2019ll say, \u201cI love that person. I don\u2019t know why, but I love them.\u201d They see something there that no one else can see. You say, \u201cWhat can you see in that person? They\u2019re ugly.\u201d They say, \u201cOh you\u2019re looking at the physical. I\u2019ve never seen the physical.\u201d They\u2019re not the handsomest one physically, but there\u2019s some beauty there. They sometimes explain it by saying, \u201cThey\u2019re tender,\u201d or, \u201cThey care.\u201d There\u2019s something that\u2019s relating to this person in the Light, and the Light of this person\u2019s consciousness pulls them into a balance.<\/p>\n
So when you\u2019re with someone you love, you might just question yourself: Do I love you because I love you, or do I love you because of the way you love me?<\/p>\n
Baruch Bashan.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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