Forgiveness is one of the fastest and most effective ways of releasing upsets, tensions, and judgments. All you need to do is forgive yourself for the judgments you have made.

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    Step 1

    Forgiving yourself for your judgments usually releases the negative charge you have on yourself or the situation. To begin the process, you can simply say, “I forgive myself for judging…,” then add a reference to the person or issue in question. When you do this, you will often find that, almost miraculously, something lets go inside and you feel as if a weight has lifted.

    Statements of forgiveness can be very general: “I forgive myself for judging my mother.”

    However, if you do not experience a release of judgment, it might help to be more specific: “I forgive myself for judging my mother for not buying me the pair of shoes I wanted.”

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    Step 2

    Perhaps you’ve hurt someone else—hurt their feelings, for example—but the other person isn’t around, so you can’t apologize directly. In that case, you might say, “I forgive myself for judging myself for anything I may have done to _______________________ [fill in the person’s name] in _______________________ [fill in a descriptive word or phrase] situation.”

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    Step 3

    How can you tell if you’ve released the judgment? You might spontaneously let out a sigh or take a deep breath. You might feel a surge of energy or warmth in your body, or a feeling of relief. Whenever you make a judgment against another person, it is stored in your body. Forgiving yourself releases the other person from your energy field.

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    Step 4

    As you go through your day, give yourself forgiveness breaks. Take ten seconds to sit quietly and forgive yourself for judging yourself or others.


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    When we stop using the intellect of the mind and come to the wisdom of the heart, we access the door to Divinity, because out of that heart comes the
    compassion and forgiveness.

    John-Roger, DSS