Love and support each other as lovers, and appreciate your roles as mother and father. Loving and supporting your child is easy after that and only adds to your life as you all nurture one another.

Those of you who are also parents can avoid the trap of making your life all about your child to the point of causing separation between each other. Your child is an expression of your life - a very important one. However, if you don't live your life in loving with each other, as adults, your child will pay the dues for that relationship. When loving is not expressed between the parents, the child experiences the loss.

When we get married, we often just serve that one other person; but let's do that fully and in a consciousness of loving. The same principle applies when we raise and serve a family. Get your priorities lined up in the correct order. The highest order of priorities is the human life. We have to trust that it is going to work out right. We don't close our eyes; we don't go stupid and say, "I'll leave it to the Light." We are the Light. We keep watching, and when we see it not working, we do something. So we have to reach into a place inside that goes past the feeling of "I can't serve." I don't know what it is you feel you can't do, because there is always something that anyone can do.

The family is the foundation of society. Love is the foundation of the family. God is the foundation of love.

Question: My grown son still blames me for having caused him pain when he was growing up, and he keeps bringing it up when we are together. I know I could have done things better, but I can't go back and change the past. Is there anything I can do here? J-R: You could tell him that if you have caused him any pain, he is smart enough now to get over it and make it an experience from which he can gain much wisdom.

A parent's love for their child may come closest to the way God loves each of us unconditionally.

Mothers and fathers typically fall madly in love with their children. Often it is a love that transcends all other kinds of earthly love. There is purity with it and an unconditional quality that is truly of the Soul and of God.

Sometimes when a new mother or father looks at their baby, they experience their Souls awakening, stirring. Their Souls see something precious in their child that is not quite of this earth. Their Souls glimpse eternity in that baby and respond with joy.

It's difficult to feel neutrality when you care what your children are going to do. I'm not sure where that impulse comes from. It may just be an instinctive thing, that we want better and more for our children than what we had. But if we stopped and looked at our own life and if we could be honest about that, we probably wouldn't want our children to live like we did anyway. And we think that because we've had a lot of experience, we have wisdom to pass to our children so they won't make mistakes. But they may be living their life better at their age than we did at that same age. And a mistake is not necessarily a bad thing. Often, it will reveal great amounts of truth.

Step into the Light of God and then deal with your children from there. If you try to deal with them out of the authority of your own ego, they may challenge that continually. They may submit, but they won't respect that authority. Authority grounded in loving and Spirit may also be challenged, but there will be recognition, on some level, of the truth of that authority.