The key to a really great relationship is to see the Lord in all the things and to see the good - it keeps us aligned inside with everything.

We don't have to be against anybody or anything.

Grace is God's righteousness, where "when you do it to the least one of these, you've done it unto me," and "love God with your body, mind, and Soul and your neighbor as yourself." Those who are under the law are not loving themselves. The Bible says, "A man who lacks judgment derides his neighbor, but a man of understanding holds his tongue." Do you understand that? We stop finding faults in people, and we start to understand that what they're going through is their process, and we just let them do it. It's called, "That's their '10-percent level,' their own area of concern."

Marriag-ing, a sharing of what is, with acceptance and loving, is an ongoing action that can be rich, rewarding, and one of the most deeply satisfying relationships you can have on this physical planet. Constantly make the choices that allow both you and your partner to win. That way, there is no better or worse. There just is.

If you want a successful relationship, you might learn how to discipline the mind so that it holds a focus on what you want, rather than react to mental constructs that may not have much to do with your heart.

Many people approach today's relationships based on yesterday's lack, precipitating tomorrow's pain. Almost everyone has a history of some form of deprivation, qualifying himself or herself as a leading candidate for the soap opera called life, and many people constantly relate through the drama of their traumas. Influenced by traditional conditioning, most people will not approach relationships based on their own immediate experience. As a result, they may miss out on the thrill of life: abundance, loving, and joy, which are always present for those awake and aware enough to claim them.

Let us create words of harmony, pleasure and love. Let us create thoughts that are worthy of the divinity within each of us. Let us create love that can be manifested anywhere, at any time. Let us walk with the Beloved and just be one with all.

If you marry because you love the other person and it doesn't matter what they do, then that is the marriage that can endure and be enjoyed throughout all experiences for a lifetime. In those marriages where the unconditional, spiritual love is present, total love on all levels is likely, including a harmonious balance of the mental, emotional, physical, and sexual expressions. You live together in a natural state of living love.

It's important for your relationship that you do not treat your mate's PROBLEM as more important than your mate, no matter what the nature of the problem is. Problems are to be dealt with, but don't make the mistake of thinking that the problems ARE your husband or your wife. Your loved one is bigger than the problem. You can assist your mate in avoiding inappropriate behavior as long as you communicate that you love him or her more than the issue or concern.

Instead of the romantic version of a marriage being two people head over heels in love with each other, staring blissfully into each other's eyes, I suggest a greater reality: two people looking in the same direction -- not at each other -- sharing a life path that can enrich and support both.