This is from a sharing that J-R did at Living in Grace.

You can have an awful lot of fun with bringing your body into the discipline of one of the few things you’ve had control over in your life, which is your weight. But some people eat to give up control over even the last thing that they could control, and they realize that they haven’t really done the best they could have done.
If you are overweight, you can take your time with the process of getting your weight balanced. You have a lot of time; after all, you fattened up in your own time. You could start out educating yourself about things like surgery, carbohydrate diets, the effects of fats, gentle exercise that isn’t striving or straining to make something happen quickly. Have yourself checked out by a medical doctor who can check such things as your heart, to make sure that what you are doing is in line with your health. I’m not saying to do any of these things; just start educating yourself in a natural way. Just let your hair curl naturally. Let things just be, and then you just be full of joy.
You know, laughing is just inner jogging. So get with people who have a laughing good time. And let your love flow out. You have no control whatsoever over your loving. As the MSIA song says, love takes you where it wants you to go, and it follows fast and it follows slow, but love always takes you where it wants to go. You just move into the loving, and its power can really surprise you.
Love can sometimes take you into some pretty divey places, under the name of love. But if you really go under love, it will protect you. Isn’t it nice to know that you don’t have to be afraid of one thing and you’re still protected?
Sometimes when you are losing weight, you get to look at some things that were put in you; “unloving” and maybe “afraid” are going to raise their heads and go, “Hello there.” You need to be willing to look them in the face, stare them down, and let them fall away.
What if these things rear their ugly heads? If you have “ugly heads” inside of you, you’ll have a place for ugly heads to come when they’ve been reared. You need to trust. Maybe you have trust going, but it’s a little shaky, and you haven’t really put your foot down into it, to step and say, “Here is the trust.” You can do that, however.
Here’s a little game you can play with yourself that can help you do that. You can adopt a child, but this ones going to be yourself. I’d like you to adopt yourself and give yourself the treatment you’d give a little girl that you adopted, which is you. I’d like you to have that loving firmness, direction, right foods, teaching this young child how to think—about how to think directly, how loving is a key, the ways love can be used against her, and how love can be used for her. And, generally, give her a really good education in life.
You have to remember that this child you’ve adopted is young in there. She’s not going to have good eating habits, and she may not have other good habits, so you may have to be strong at times to give her good, firm direction. And go with her to make sure she does it.
You also give this child a name different from yours. You decide what it is. Let’s say you call her Mary. (If you’re a man, you may want to have a male name.) So, you’ve adopted Mary, and you’re going to lead her in the lifestyle that will be very pleasant to her God, the God of her heart, and the love that moves through her body. You get very tied to her so that where she goes, you go. She can ask you for advice, and you can ask her for advice, and you can say to her, “Well, Mary, what do you want to eat if you don’t want to eat this?” And when she tells you, you say, “Mary, that’s not good for us. If I’ve got to fix it, I’m not fixing junk for you. I’m going to make it look very nice and very, very tempting, and before we do that, we’re going to take just a little short walk down to the corner and back, just to clear our lungs, just to get some air in our head, let the sinuses open, and see some of the beauty that God put here for us. For us! And we’ve got to use up our share of the beauty, or it might just go to waste someplace.”
You also might want to set up a little housecleaning event with Mary: “Today, we’re going to start to straighten out some of these things. I don’t know when we’re going to get through, but we’ll do a little bit every day. And I think that we’ll take these things I’ve had stuck around because I’m sort of a packrat, and we’re going to give away something every week. We’re going to take something that we haven’t used, Mary, and we’re just going to give it away to the people who might be a little on the poor side.”
When you give something away, you let the person do what they want with it. If you give something away and the person says, “I don’t want it,” just say, “Fine,” because look at the things you’ve turned down that you didn’t want and it was okay. Just offer it to somebody else. In fact, there’s a Heartfelt Foundation that could probably put the things to good use. If you really got big, you could give away two or three things a week. It doesn’t have to be planned or studied. There would just have to be an opening of the heart and the presentation.
There’s going to come a time when Mary won’t listen, and you’ll have to do some of the things for her regardless. Say it’s walking. You don’t make her take the walk. Just take her for a walk, even when she’s kicking and screaming. She may go kicking and screaming, but she’ll also go singing lullabies. And the only way we can tell the difference between the lullabies and the kicking and screaming is by what somebody determines it to be. I’ve heard some singing that sounded a lot like screeching to me, and other singing was just interesting to watch. Now, lullabies are very easy to sing, but it can still be a big challenge. But when you go up and climb across that challenge, you’re going to step into something pretty nifty.
You’re allowed to stop any time you really, really, really want to, but not just if you get a little bit disgusted or angry, or if the scale doesn’t show a pound change that you wanted or thought should be. To stop has got to be really, really, really, really important. And if you’re not sure, you ask some of your friends to look at it with you and see if they get that it’s important.
Baruch Bashan.

To assist you with balancing your weight, you could get MSIA’s tape packet called Health from the Inside Out including the Body Balance Meditation, and you could also get a personal innerphasing through MSIA. For more information about innerphasings, you can contact the MSIA office: 323/737-4055